MQabbani, Minds Talk

Question form you fellow bloggers and friends :

Are you sure you are going to be happy with her?

Never thought about it, but sure I will be inshallah

Is she a blogger?

No she’s not, who knows maybe she will be soon : )

Does she know about your blog?

Sure she does, what do you think her reaction will be when she knows I have a blog after a while?? :D plus its helped her understand my personality more ;)

How come you made your mind in 4 HOURs??

Well it’s not a smart thing, but when u know EXACRCTLY what you want , it become easy to tell if she’s the one or not : ) I am looking for two or three things mainly , I found it so that’s it , plus I know EVE well : ) so I can judge easy ,7amdellah (thank god), as I believe in change, and EVERY ONE CAN BE CHANGED , so things are fine with me. Oh I thought I can say I am gifted I know many things about you, just form your eyes so it has really helped me too

But if I want to act like many do, I guess it’s not going to be easy to make you mind in short time, when you want to make sure of her thinking ways, her life, what does she like and doesn’t ,time , nervousness, talkativeness, open minded, modern, how does she act in 1 2 3 ..ect sure you will need months to get all this about any one.

You write the papers (Katb Ktab) after a month? It’s a rush right?

Well, no at all it’s something I want. You know there are things you can’t do and its really helpful in relationships. As Moderate Muslim, I can’t touch girls, so do you think when you really like a girl, share her Love and great feeling can it be complete without a tight hug or at least holding her hand? I believe it’s VERY hard, and the physical part plays a good role in a relationship. In the west for example she tells you if this guy is the one she wants after she sleeps with him too!! So for me this is the best way, when writing the papers things become more relax and cool. At least I can have my privacy with her, no need for the whole family to hear what am talking to her

Now it’s been 5 months? Did u regret? Or things okay..

So far NO regrets at all and for me it’s not an option, am happy and doing fine, and she as well, I am happy things going like this and we are soo cool, 7amdellah

Why the traditional way ?

Actually for me it was OKAY any way, it just must fit with the family rules that I want too. I am from a Moderate Family, Proud from Damascus, Qabbani and sole son

Moderate and religion
Syrian (prefer form Damascus)
Known and Respected Family

I can’t go against family rules simply when a guy gets married he connects two families to each other, not just two persons. So if I want to connect them to a family they don’t like and there’s no acceptance between them, I am the one who will suffer later. It’s not something that can be solved by time… it’s really like buying a headache for life time.

So from the beginning find any one who fit these rules, then see if she fits with my rules.

Am always surprised from the guys who hook up with a girl who does not fit with anything that his family agrees on. At the end both suffer and end with each one on their own way, then both become happy. I feel it just wasting time, and the famous words “it’s my life not their life” does not work all the time ..

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